There is absolutely NO excuse for cheating …

I don’t believe any of the excuses people use when they get caught cheating on their partners, because I honestly believe that if you really want to stop yourself before things go too far…you can!  And trust me, I understand what it’s like when emotions are running high and you think you can’t stop — but I also know that if you TRULY love your partner, and you TRULY want to get out of the situation, immediate prayer, a little self-respect, and consideration for the person(s) you’re about to hurt will help you get out, no matter how hot and bothered you are.

I believe that the moment your partner’s image, or the image of the spouse (or lover) of the person you’re about to cheat with flashes across your mind, responsibility and respect will stop you right in your tracks–not to mention, that’s what should have kept you from getting into that situation to begin with!  

While many refer to cheating as a “mistake” or an “accident”, I would strongly disagree.  I believe it is neither, and that it is clearly a conscious choice we make to satisfy our selfish desires.  

A mistake is an error in action, calculation, opinion, or judgment caused by poor reasoning, carelessness, or insufficient knowledge.

An accident is an an undesirable or unfortunate happening that occurs unintentionally and usually results in harm, injury, damage, or loss; casualty; mishap.

When a person has intercourse with someone other than their wife/husband/lover, there are several choices they must make (or “mistakes” as some would prefer to call them) to get to the good part.  The cheaters must decide where the clandestine affair will take place (in a hotel, in a car, in the park, at someone’s house, a dark parking lot, over her house, over his house, etc.) and who will pick up the other, and from where.  They also have to decide who’s car they will use as the cheat-mobile, or whether they will drive their own cars to the secret place.  Then once they get to their cheaters-haven, there’s foreplay, lifting up of skirt or dress, removal of pants, removal of (or pulling over of) undergarments, maybe a shower, maybe some lotions, roses, or chocolate, who knows, and then perhaps putting on protection, etc.   

Now with all the decisions one has to make, and all the actions one has to take — albeit rather quickly, but decisions and actions nonetheless — can anyone call cheating a “mistake” or an “accident”?  Especially when you do each action consciously, individually and intentionally — giving yourself time to consider your choices and get yourself out of the situation.  So somebody, please tell me how cheating is a “mistake” or even an “accident”?

The answer is:  You can’t!  No matter how you try to spin it, it is clear that cheating is a choice.  It  is not a “mistake” nor is it an “accident,” and there is absolutely NO excuse for doing it.  Because honestly speaking, I’ve yet to hear of a single incident where a girl’s legs mistakenly or accidentally just “FELL” open, and a man’s penis just mistakenly or accidentally “FELL” inside, with no help from either of them!

Come on now, let’s be real … have you?  If a person has time to pull down their pants, lift up their dress, take off their shirt, or whatever they do…at each interval, they have time to say “Whoa … I think we need to STOP!!”  In fact, just saying “STOP!!” takes less time than any of the actions mentioned above … LOL!  

So for me, nothing in that BS box of excuses would work.  And all that– “…I was so drunk, I don’t remember what happened…I didn’t mean for it to happen…I don’t love her…I don’t love him…It was a mistake…It didn’t mean anything…I was upset…It’s your fault, because you act like you don’t love me anymore…I think I’m addicted to sex...yadda, yadda, yadda!“  would mean absolutely nothing to me!  And even though their lips would be moving, all I would hear is “Blah! Blah! Blah!”  They’d have to tell it to the birds, because their sorry ass excuses would not be acceptable and they would not be excused!

I’d have more respect for a person that was able to admit their cheating was a choice and who did not try to convince me that it was a “mistake” or an “accident” … particularly when there are so many opportunities along the way to stop and do the right thing.

No matter what the situation, the main point is this:  If you feel the need to cheat, do your partner and yourself a favor and walk away from the relationship before you make matters worse.  Even if you are not aware that there’s another person in the picture (because some people will lie about being involved with another when they are trying to have intercourse with you) , take time to consider your own relationship, self-worth, self-respect, self-esteem, and the person(s) your actions will hurt before choosing to cheat with another.  

Ask yourself why you are willing to cheat, and whether your decision to cheat is worth the drama and heartache it will bring to all parties involved.  Having been cheated on myself, I can honestly tell you, it’s truly not worth it!